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Learning to lurk before committing will help you avoid burnout

Don't be afraid of missing out on the so-called first-mover advantage
Learning to lurk before committing will help you avoid burnout
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I received a huge pile of soil that I turned into three beautiful vegetable garden beds that I’m beaming with pride over. Thanks to many of you that responded with your gardening advice!

As I was lugging buckets of rocky dirt across my yard while clearing out the beds, I had a revelation.

Adopter when ready > early adopter

Let me explain.

In our society, we typically reward those that are early adopters. From TikTok and Clubhouse to Keto and intermittent fasting. We feel a pull to be all over what’s popular.

But living this way is overwhelming. It makes us feel unnecessary imposter syndrome.

Dabbling in everything that’s trending leads to burnout.

Vegetable gardening was a trendy quarantine activity last year. I thought about going big then, but I wasn't ready to go beyond my small box.

I didn't know enough about gardening basics, I wasn’t familiar with the sun patterns, I didn't know if I wanted to fully commit to it, and I didn't know where I wanted to establish the garden beds.

That said, "adopter when ready" often means never. So, I gave myself a deadline of one year to figure it out – in line with the seasons. I figured if I had the desire to learn more, to watch the sun, and put sufficient thought on where to place the beds, I either would or wouldn’t in the year ahead.

You know how this story ends already. I had the desire. I read a great book. I watched the sun patterns like a hawk through spring/summer/fall, and I modeled several locations to establish the beds in my head.

I'm happy I waited a year to establish these three new lovely garden beds when I was ready rather than rushing into last year when it was trendy. I saved money, stress, and effort.

Don’t be afraid to lurk for a while before jumping into something. You’re not falling behind. You’re actually saving your sanity.

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Don’t be afraid to lurk for a while before jumping into something. You’re not falling behind. You’re actually saving your sanity.

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Hi, I'm Grant Gurewitz. I'm on a mission to end burnout at work. I've been in tech for 10 years (ex-Zillow, current: Qualtrics) who suffered deep burnout and came back from it with no help of the hacky advice out there.

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